Throughout life we can learn from other people. Some advice will be invaluable (and some we may ignore!)
When my life fell apart after my catastrophic spinal cord injury, there was so much information and guidance thrown my way but as my whole world was in turmoil, it was a minefield. I had the medical professionals advice, family and friends suggestions and even strangers emailing things that may help me; what I should try and even what I shouldn't do.
I am going to share one of the many helpful things my physio said to me early on after my accident. I think it is something we should all abide to through out life for various reasons.
For the first couple of years, I had regular physio sessions, working hard to make any recovery but also to build strength and look after my body as best as I could. It was hard, frustrating and I didn't improve liked I desperately hoped, however, it gave me a reason to get out of bed, dressed and feel like I was doing something positive rather than giving up.It was also better for me physically than doing nothing. It was a big part of my journey to acceptance and I wouldn't change the way I approached my spinal injury.
One day my physio said a few words I will never forget. "Don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it" . She explained that by doing this I could use some of my energy for achieving more.
I took her words of wisdom and truly believe it has helped me get to where I am today.
From the early days following my accident, I leant on those closest to me for comfort, next came the help with every day basic tasks such as assistance lifting my wheelchair in and out the car which I can do myself but if I am with someone then they often make life easier for me by popping it in and out the boot and finally the fundraising challenges, where I gathered a team of both family and friends, to be part of my team.
The list of where, why and when I have accepted help is incredibly long.
Sometimes it can feel that being fiercely independent is being strong but I feel that asking for help is a strength and something many find difficult.
There are also times you can offer your help to others- and that is how I see life....full of teamwork.
What is some brilliant advice you have been given and implemented into your life ?
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